Yeah but having 42 towns with over 100,000 people living in them is a bigger problem here. There's a reason London is the epicentre in the UK.
The smaller the areas and towns (less populated), the less likely a disastrous rate of spread. Italy just has an outrageous amount more potential hot spots. And their culture of living with parents, living with Grandma etc makes it doubly worse as they take the brunt of the ICU.
You are wrong here. It's a density thing, it's about the combination of space and population. It's not about overall population but population per square meter in a given area. For example Milan is a very dense area and is therefore a very risky one. Regarding the debate that you are having, you all need to scale it down and look at each urban areas individually, they are not all equal and can't really be averaged when you are talking about a potential spread or the consequence of an outbreak on the health structure because these things regionalized.