I was/am a Remainer / Remoaner.
But all this talk about being half in-half out worries me. I think this is one of those instances where a compromise wont be able to deliver the best of both worlds. It will only deliver the worst. So if the choice is between cancel the whole thing, pretend it never happened and remain as a full EU member, I would vote for that. But if its between a "hard" and a "soft" Brexit, I am coming round to the view that maybe hard, while being potentially damaging, would be preferable to the alternative.
The things that upset people (not me, but Leave voters) about the EU would be 100x worse if we were a "vassal state" as JRM put it. We did used to have significant influence on the EU, despite what people may have thought. Yes we had to implement legislation developed elsewhere, but we had a lot of influence over it. We wouldnt if we were forced to live by EU rules without being a member. Then we really would have a democratic deficit. Being part of the customs union would mean limited opportunity to make these fabled trade deals. I dont really believe in these trade deals anyway, unless what is being offered is a regulatory race to the bottom - chemically washed meat etc. But at the end of the day, if we "leave" but are then unable to even pursue the deals, that is going to stir up a lot of resentment among the slim majority of people who want out.
Im not sure. I do feel a hard Brexit could be really, really bad, economically. So maybe anything is better than that. But part of me thinks maybe the best thing is to give Brexiters what they want, see if they can make it work. If not, and they have no excuses, maybe we can reapply - even if we get no more special entitlements, as we had before. At least then there will be no sniping and no "what ifs" about the opportunities that the Remainer establishment denied them.
The bottom line is I dont think there is any way forward that doesnt leave the country worse off than it was. Even if we Remain as full members, which I think would be best economically, I think the political damage from that would be incalculable. As I said, the half way option suits nobody and would end up being the worst of both worlds. So maybe the best thing is to just cut ties and see what happens. Endure the damage and pick up the pieces when the dust settles, make the best of whatever the situation ends up being.