Sky1981
Fending off the urge
To put an end to the off-topic part, this article from 11 years ago has listed 10 solid reasons as to how and why lost the Vietnam War. In contrast, the British found a way to win the hearts and minds of the Malays during the 1948-1960 conflict against the communist MNLA years before the Vietnam War became a serious thing.
In order to win a war, you can't just go by body counts and utter destruction. The concept of winning over the hearts and minds should be a primary item in order to win any conflict.
That's assuming there's no political aspect of wars.
Sometimes war is not fought with the sole aim of winning