Abortion

What if you were that child? Would you rather not be born to be poor, or live in a broken family?

About the part of "many people on the earth", very often repeated, It is a very fatalistic vision of humanity, and selfish.
We are already many in the world, we do not need to share our piece of cake.
I find it paradoxical that the pro-life are the intolerant for not respecting the body of the woman/misogynists/cavemen while the other side uses so placidly demographic arguments to eliminate a life

That argument could be made for any abortion. I’m lucky as I was raised by two loving parents. How life had turned out if they had been 18 when they got me, didn’t love each other and split up, who knows. I do know that neither me nor my x were in no shape or form ready at age 18 to provide for a baby. I could barely take care of myself, nevermind a child.

Selfish? How? I’m not against people having kids, I just think that people should be able to choose whether or not the time is right for a baby so that when they do, that child can have the best possible prerequisites in life.
 
I'm not sure what he means either.
You know exactly what I mean. You’ve admitted it already.
So he copied and pasted something he didn't agree with for some reason?
Just read back through the last few pages of the thread. He copied and pasted part of a manifesto he wrote on a different forum. Didn’t know if you’d wanna argue about something he wrote a year ago and put up on here.
What if you were that child?
Then it would be a point as you’d never know the difference.
 
You know exactly what I mean. You’ve admitted it already.

No, what sort of response is this "Check his tag line bud. He copied and pasted that from another forum", to this "Which is why those who object to abortion tend To be pro death penalty I suppose?"
 
No, what sort of response is this "Check his tag line bud. He copied and pasted that from another forum", to this "Which is why those who object to abortion tend To be pro death penalty I suppose?"
Well, if you’d read what I said to him just now, you might find out.
 
Just read back through the last few pages of the thread. He copied and pasted part of a manifesto he wrote on a different forum. Didn’t know if you’d wanna argue about something he wrote a year ago and put up on here.

A manifesto? :lol:

It's a reply I posted on a thread (concerning what was then the forthcoming referendum on the Repeal of the 8th Amendment in the Irish Constitution)
in the Current Affairs section of an Irish football forum that I'm a member of.
 
A manifesto? :lol:

It's a reply I posted on a thread (concerning what was then the forthcoming referendum on the Repeal of the 8th Amendment in the Irish Constitution)
in the Current Affairs section of an Irish football forum that I'm a member of.
That’s nice.
 
That argument could be made for any abortion. I’m lucky as I was raised by two loving parents. How life had turned out if they had been 18 when they got me, didn’t love each other and split up, who knows. I do know that neither me nor my x were in no shape or form ready at age 18 to provide for a baby. I could barely take care of myself, nevermind a child.

Selfish? How? I’m not against people having kids, I just think that people should be able to choose whether or not the time is right for a baby so that when they do, that child can have the best possible prerequisites in life.

I disagree, surely I would have done something different, because I think I always had that feeling that abortion is death,
but surely with 18 I would be tempted to continue with my life. I'm sorry that you saw yourself in that position. I imagine it was very difficult.

On the other, and referring to what you say of prerequisites, I believe that a child does not need so many things to survive. I do not know where you are from but a European family can support a child, even if their parents are not prepared or have money.
Then it would be a point as you’d never know the difference.

I think I'm a bit lost in the translation. Sorry. You mean that the question does not matter, since as he has not been born we will never know?
 
That’s nice.

Ok, cheers.

In Ireland referendums are not uncommon as sovereignty rests with the people and not the Dáil (parliament). So, depending on the issue and particular constitutional change, a lot of discussion and debate can accompany it (Irish people also tend to talk a lot anyway). I, after much reflection, posted my view in the thread of an Irish forum devoted to the topic.

Now...imo, you are really overreaching when you describe* my contribution as a "manifesto". It's not a political pamphlet. But, you go ahead. Knock yourself out!


* copy unchanged_lineup
 
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I think I'm a bit lost in the translation. Sorry. You mean that the question does not matter, since as he has not been born we will never know?
Yes. The “what if you were the baby” is just an attempt to tug at heart strings, an appeal to emotion.

If you were the fetus, then the question is moot. You never existed.
 
Yes. The “what if you were the baby” is just an attempt to tug at heart strings, an appeal to emotion.

If you were the fetus, then the question is moot. You never existed.
And that's good, isn´t it?
A subject of such magnitude should be treated without omitting the emotional point of view.
Allow the person empathize or make him/her see what the process entails.
 
And that's good, isn´t it?
A subject of such magnitude should be treated without omitting the emotional point of view.
Allow the person empathize or make him/her see what the process entails.
What this results in is “abortion counseling services” like what we have in the American South, which are nothing more than needless, unethical emotional torture.
 
No, just from 16:52 today.



You didn't specifically. You stated -

Don't hold back now. It's all because we've run away from the church, isn't it?

And all marriages and families were perfect in the past, which the stats also bear out, naturally?

If you think 'within the arms of the church' is an unfair parallel for that, then apologies. If you'd rather an alternative I'll go back and change it.



Of course there are always issues with these. That's the case everywhere, no matter which country or culture it is; which is why I contrasted the Irish statistics with those of other countries.

You're also correct with your point regarding social pressures. However, nowadays it's also fair to ponder how many marriages breakdown because those in the marriage don't take it (and family) as seriously as previous generations. What proportion do the 'hating each others guts' partnerships take up in other words?

It's demonstrably true that marriage (& family) has declined in importance, just look at the statistics. Of course many may see that as good thing, but that's a separate point.



Yet the caveat of 'it seems' remains. ;)



It may indeed skirt close to something contentious, especially when the rest of the line isn't quoted alongside it.

My point about the working class and immigration was more descriptive than a lament. It's also important to remember the context i.e - debating the issue in the forthcoming referendum.



You're doing it again.

For future reference you'll notice that I used quotation marks for 'Western World'. I did (and do) this because I don't like the term and because it suited the purposes of that discussion as a comparator.

Reasons for the former include: i) I'm not 'Western', ii)what goes on in other 'Western' countries is their business, and iii) the term has been used insidiously, in my view, since the American & British led conflicts in the Middle East began nearly 20 years ago. So, as I said, I don't like it.

At 16:52, I gave you far more engagement than you deserve. You spotted a trending topic on the Caf and saw an opportunity to shoehorn in something you wrote a year ago. The narcissism!

Actual engagement with the topic would have been easy. The things being discussed yesterday were a viewpoint from Egypt, the ethics of mixing medicine and religion, sex education, and more that were actually being spoken about at the time.

There are not enough rolleyes on the Caf for the irony of you talking about taking something out of context when you pasted around 5% of your original post here yesterday.

Your lack of shame around all of this fits in perfectly with your narcissism in posting it in the first place.
 
You're doing it again. You're accusing me of harking back to some supposed 'golden age' which never existed, and which I never lived in.

Change is inevitable everywhere. However, it's a mistake to assume that particular changes somehow automatically equate to progress. The two aren't the same thing.

You say abortion is a harbinger of decline. You have to decline from somewhere. So, are we in decline or not?
 
I, after much reflection,
How much reflection did it take yesterday to decide to give just one more audience the benefit of your wisdom on this topic? Never mind that the jarring nature of it against the flow of the thread was enough for @KirkDuyt to spot it. Third time's a charm, eh?

It's clear you really don't get that you've shown a lack of respect to other posters by shoehorning in some regurgitated thoughts in a thread where there are actual active discussions happening right now related to the topic. The Caf is not even the first football forum you posted it on!

Either that, or you're trying to ride out the shame of getting caught doing it, James Stretford style.

We have a tag function here too you know when you want to include someone in a post. Perhaps your source forums don't have that.
 
At 16:52, I gave you far more engagement than you deserve. You spotted a trending topic on the Caf and saw an opportunity to shoehorn in something you wrote a year ago. The narcissism!

Actual engagement with the topic would have been easy. The things being discussed yesterday were a viewpoint from Egypt, the ethics of mixing medicine and religion, sex education, and more that were actually being spoken about at the time.

There are not enough rolleyes on the Caf for the irony of you talking about taking something out of context when you pasted around 5% of your original post here yesterday.

Your lack of shame around all of this fits in perfectly with your narcissism in posting it in the first place.

You seem to have developed this weird fascination with what I had written previously. You keep referencing it like it's some sort of gotcha moment, and seem to eager to use it (or my action of copying a snippet from it) to display your own virtue.

You mention my 'narcissism' and 'lack of shame' in posting it. Perhaps you can explain how this 'belated display of narcissism' is indeed narcissistic, and why I should be ashamed exactly?

Also, why would I post the whole of my original post? That was written for obvious reasons, in the context of a forthcoming referendum.

Re: actual engagement, highlighting the possible cultural and social implications of the liberalisation of abortion laws is engagement with the topic. The thread was reactivated in post #360, which concerned changes in the law. There's no rule that my opening post in a thread has be in direct response to another member.
 
You say abortion is a harbinger of decline. You have to decline from somewhere. So, are we in decline or not?

I said it marks the decline on a nation as we know, or knew it. A suitable, if stark, description in my view given that a new value system must have emerged to facilitate the liberalisation of the law in the first place. This then also involves a redefinition of said national identity moving forward.

An example where abortion serves as an extremely stark marker of decline is the former Soviet Union. Towards the end of its existence, when it was collapsing under the weight of its own decrepitude, the number of abortions exceeded the number of live births.
 
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I said it marks the decline on a nation as we know, or know it. A suitable, if stark, description in my view given that a new value system must have emerged to facilitate the liberalisation of the law in the first place. This then involves a redefinition of said national identity moving forward.

An example where abortion serves as an extremely stark marker of decline is the former Soviet Union. Towards the end of its existence, when it was collapsing under the weight of its own decrepitude, the number of abortions exceeded the number of live births.
Not sure the Soviet Union was in decline. In any case my thoughts are that it was a signal of people either being uncertain of the near future or keeping their choices to move and move fast open.
 
You seem to have developed this weird fascination with what I had written previously. You keep referencing it like it's some sort of gotcha moment, and seem to eager to use it (or my action of copying a snippet from it) to display your own virtue.

You mention my 'narcissism' and 'lack of shame' in posting it. Perhaps you can explain how this 'belated display of narcissism' is indeed narcissistic, and why I should be ashamed exactly?

Also, why would I post the whole of my original post? That was written for obvious reasons, in the context of a forthcoming referendum.

Re: actual engagement, highlighting the possible cultural and social implications of the liberalisation of abortion laws is engagement with the topic. The thread was reactivated in post #360, which concerned changes in the law. There's no rule that my opening post in a thread has be in direct response to another member.

Why would you post any of the original post? Does the current discussion not, at a minimum, deserve even the slightest reframing of what you thought then, given that 12 months have passed since you posted it?

Post #360. Please tell me what you copied fragment about why you think abortion acceptance signals the beginning of decline, taken from a totally separate discussion a year ago, relates to post #360 which is about Georgia sending women to prison for life for having an abortion.

It's extremely narcissistic to leap into a conversation in such a cack-handed fashion and think others who are in mid-flow of another conversation should stop and listen to you. It's comparable to the wumming hand grenade Maticmaker lobbed in out of nowhere.

This is not anything to do with me, this is about you not having the decency to even slightly tailor your previous 2018 thoughts to 2019 and what people were actually discussing. Nah, just lob in an out-of-context piece of your presumed genius from 2018. Why else would you paste it verbatim if you don't believe that it's something enlightened? You must think it is to recycle it word-for-word on three separate forums.
 
How much reflection did it take yesterday to decide to give just one more audience the benefit of your wisdom on this topic? Never mind that the jarring nature of it against the flow of the thread was enough for @KirkDuyt to spot it. Third time's a charm, eh?

It didn't involve a great deal of reflection. I thought it would open up an interesting avenue of discussion, particularly when many seem to regard the liberalisation of abortion laws as somehow axiomatically good.

Sorry for jarring you.

It's clear you really don't get that you've shown a lack of respect to other posters by shoehorning in some regurgitated thoughts in a thread where there are actual active discussions happening right now related to the topic. The Caf is not even the first football forum you posted it on!

You seem to have appointed yourself the moral arbiter of the Caf. Perhaps you can explain how I have been disrespectful?

That's also the second or third time you've mentioned that this is "not even the first football forum you posted it on!", and you deem it worthy of exclamation. What relevance does the type of forum have?

Either that, or you're trying to ride out the shame of getting caught doing it, James Stretford style.

:wenger:

Why should I feel ashamed?

I don't know who James Stretford is.

We have a tag function here too you know when you want to include someone in a post. Perhaps your source forums don't have that.

I don't spend a great deal of time on forums and I wasn't aware of this feature. Why would I use it anyway?...the context is different.

I have noticed the ignore function on member profiles though. It's probably best you click that on mine.
 
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Before the internet people like Kinsella would write these missives out by hand and sellotape them around town by the train station or on the back of bus stops and such. I miss those days. Used to have great conversations with strangers as we'd discuss who the local loon might be.

Never did confirm who was doing them in Dulwich back in the day but I'm pretty sure it was the crackhead that used to cut his own hair outside the chicken shop.
 
It didn't involve a great deal of reflection. I thought it would open up an interesting avenue of discussion, particularly when many seem to regard the liberalisation of abortion laws as somehow axiomatically good.

Sorry for jarring you.



You seem to have appointed yourself the moral arbiter of the Caf. Perhaps you can explain how I have been disrespectful?

That's also the second or third time you've mentioned that this is "not even the first football forum you posted it on!", and you deem it worthy of exclamation. What relevance does the type of forum have?



:wenger:

Why should I feel ashamed?

I don't know who James Stretford is.



I don't spend a great deal of time on forums and I wasn't aware of this feature. Why would I use it anyway?...the context is different.

I have noticed the ignore function on member profiles though. It's probably best you click that on mine.

This is very illuminating and what I expected. It shows how little you valued the conversation that was already taking place and that you thought your "avenue of discussion" was more important, even though it was third-hand and was jarringly, as you say, out of context.

Only delighted to ignore you in future.
 
Before the internet people like Kinsella would write these missives out by hand and sellotape them around town by the train station or on the back of bus stops and such. I miss those days. Used to have great conversations with strangers as we'd discuss who the local loon might be.

Never did confirm who was doing them in Dulwich back in the day but I'm pretty sure it was the crackhead that used to cut his own hair outside the chicken shop.

It's good to know that even in the internet age, folks like this can still get good mileage out of the screeds they slave over.
 
This is very illuminating and what I expected.

Setting the earlier straw men alight was illumination enough, surely? :rolleyes:

It shows how little you valued the conversation that was already taking place and that you thought your "avenue of discussion" was more important, even though it was third-hand and was jarringly, as you say, out of context.

I didn't think it was more important, just that it would open up another avenue of discussion. Which it did.

Whether it was 'third hand' or not is irrelevant.

Only delighted to ignore you in future.

I'm happy with that.
 

11 year old girl in Ohio got pregnant from rape, and an abortion is off the table because, well, she's in Ohio.

To quote someone from the YouTube comments:
The accused rapist in this scenario has more rights and protections under the law than the 11-year old victim, and thanks to the right-wingers, so does the fetus. One can only hope that this 11-year old has a solid and loving support system, because it seems like no else is protecting her.
And that's fecked up on so many different levels. The pregnancy can do some pretty serious harm to her, but they don't give a shit about that. They don't really give a shit about her, nor the kid. All they give a shit about is moralising. Feck the lot of them.
 
It's disgusting the poor girl has had to go through rape, how can her young mind even comprehend anything of what happened, let alone what is to come?

It's like the Middle ages in parts of the USA.
 

11 year old girl in Ohio got pregnant from rape, and an abortion is off the table because, well, she's in Ohio.

To quote someone from the YouTube comments:

And that's fecked up on so many different levels. The pregnancy can do some pretty serious harm to her, but they don't give a shit about that. They don't really give a shit about her, nor the kid. All they give a shit about is moralising. Feck the lot of them.


But the liberalisation of abortion laws as thee most significant act in rubber stamping the decline of a nation /paste

Ohio is clearly in undecline.
 
What if you were that child? Would you rather not be born to be poor, or live in a broken family?

I havent read this thread, but to add a slightly personal tangent to this one; I was adopted as a baby. I have never known or met my birth parents, but my family did have a letter from them tucked away, which I was given when I turned 18. In it they explained that because they (my birth parents) were very young when they had me, hadnt been trying for a kid and didnt think that they would be able to provide what they thought was a good quality of life - that this was why they chose to put me up for adoption. As a result, I have enjoyed a good life and a good education. I cant thank them enough for making that decision - even though I dont even know their full names.

I also realise that not every baby is going to be fortunate enough to get adopted by a good family and given a good quality of life, therefore I am firmly pro-abortion and think that if you cant offer a kid a decent QoL, opportunities and education etc, you should think long and hard before bringing a baby into this world.
 
I havent read this thread, but to add a slightly personal tangent to this one; I was adopted as a baby. I have never known or met my birth parents, but my family did have a letter from them tucked away, which I was given when I turned 18. In it they explained that because they (my birth parents) were very young when they had me, hadnt been trying for a kid and didnt think that they would be able to provide what they thought was a good quality of life - that this was why they chose to put me up for adoption. As a result, I have enjoyed a good life and a good education. I cant thank them enough for making that decision - even though I dont even know their full names.

I also realise that not every baby is going to be fortunate enough to get adopted by a good family and given a good quality of life, therefore I am firmly pro-abortion and think that if you cant offer a kid a decent QoL, opportunities and education etc, you should think long and hard before bringing a baby into this world.
My own personal story is that having a single parent, no money, 15 different schools because of moving around, eventually ending up with some qualifications and decent jobs. Being able to retire before hitting 50 and having what I regard as a fulfilling and challenging life I'm pretty glad that while my Mum who had an abortion of a child and going through some quite tough decisions actually decided to keep me when she fell pregnant again. I don't think if you asked any child born into whatever family unless they had some severe mental issues that they'd actually say that they wished they'd never been born at all.
 
My own personal story is that having a single parent, no money, 15 different schools because of moving around, eventually ending up with some qualifications and decent jobs. Being able to retire before hitting 50 and having what I regard as a fulfilling and challenging life I'm pretty glad that while my Mum who had an abortion of a child and going through some quite tough decisions actually decided to keep me when she fell pregnant again. I don't think if you asked any child born into whatever family unless they had some severe mental issues that they'd actually say that they wished they'd never been born at all.

I don't know, I've met a few people who unfortunately have said exactly that last phrase due to the upbringing they had :(
 
I don't know, I've met a few people who unfortunately have said exactly that last phrase due to the upbringing they had :(

I have no insight on the subject but on top of the demographic that you just mentioned, I wouldn't be surprised if a large amount of people with suicidal thoughts wished to have never been born.
 
I don't know, I've met a few people who unfortunately have said exactly that last phrase due to the upbringing they had :(
Life is what you make of it but obviously if you can't do that and blame all your problems on your situation of birth then it's up to the individual.
 
I have no insight on the subject but on top of the demographic that you just mentioned, I wouldn't be surprised if a large amount of people with suicidal thoughts wished to have never been born.
And I sure that a proportion of them have had two parents and a decent start in life equally as do a percentage of people born into difficult circumstances. Depression is an equal opportunities mental issue.